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Breaking the Love-Bombing Cycle
Do you shower new romantic interests with intense affection, only to suddenly lose interest and pull away? You might be caught in a pattern called love-bombing—a cycle that leaves both you and your partners confused and hurt.
The "Falling Fast" Phase
Intense Early Affection
You quickly overwhelm your partner with attention, praise, and romantic gestures that feel genuine in the moment.
Idealizing Your Partner
You see them through rose-colored glasses, convinced you've found "the one" despite barely knowing them.
Rapid Commitment
You make future plans and promises about lasting love, even though the relationship is still new.
The Sudden Withdrawal
1
Initial Excitement Fades
What felt exciting now feels overwhelming or boring.
2
Emotional Distance
Your texts become shorter, your affection less enthusiastic, and you find yourself pulling away.
3
Avoiding Explanations
When confronted, you minimize the issue or avoid the conversation entirely.
4
Relationship Ends
You abruptly end things or emotionally "ghost," leaving your partner confused and hurt.
The Hidden Wounds Driving Your Behavior

Fear of Vulnerability
You use intense affection to mask discomfort with true emotional closeness
Fear of Rejection
You worry that showing your authentic self will lead to abandonment
Need for External Validation
Your sense of worth depends on others' approval and attention
Breaking the Pattern
Recognize Your Patterns
Awareness is the first step toward change. Notice when you're beginning to idealize someone or moving too quickly.
Explore Your Core Wounds
Understanding the fears driving your behavior—whether through therapy, journaling, or self-reflection—creates space for healing.
Practice Authentic Connection
Learn to build relationships based on genuine compatibility rather than intensity, allowing connections to develop naturally over time.
You're not alone in this pattern, and change is possible. Ready to build lasting relationships beyond the initial spark?